How teaching pleasure could help prevent domestic violence
For those of you who don't know, by day I work as a domestic violence victim advocate for our region's only licensed domestic violence...
My Vagina Monologue
It's February, ya'll, and that means it's time for The Vagina Monologues! I got to participate in our local university's production of it...
Sex and the Virginity Myth
Kids, gather around, and let's hear the tale of Sex and the Virginity Myth. It's a great one, one that begins with intangible social...
Reader question: How can I choose lingerie I feel sexy in?
Ah, lingerie. Lingerie is definitely one of those topics of discussion that seems to be rather polarizing. You either love lingerie, or...
It's okay to be privileged (unless you don't do anything about it)
Privilege. In social justice circles, it's a word that gets thrown around a lot. And, depending on where you are in your own social...
Having great sex means ditching diet culture
Happy New Year, loves! I hope everyone celebrated safely! And whether 2018 was the best or worst year of your life, whether you bid...
Ideas for Self Care
In today's new agey, #selfcompassion, social media perfection, culturally appropriate all the spiritual practices day and age, the term...
Review: Vanity by Jopen -- Vs4.5
It's been a heck of a time on social media and in the news lately. Everywhere you turn, triggering news and images just make a person...
Why people don't report sexual assault
CW: This post discusses sexual assault and the current climate within our rape culture, as well as depicts personal accounts of childhood...
To be socialized woman is to be socialized disembodied
This week, I wanted to get a little personal, and in so doing, highlight a real issue that shows up as a symptom of the systemic misogyny...
Why you don't have to "love yourself first"
How many of you have heard this bit of so called wisdom: "You'll never find love or be able to be loved or give love until you learn to...
What does it mean to be sex positive?
Sex positivity. It's a phrase that seems to be thrown all over the internet and social media when talking about everything from regular...
Review: Key by Jopen -- Pyxis finger massager
Would you believe that before I started my sex toy party business over five years ago I had never used a vibrator or any sort of toy? I...
Tarot Talk: Healing from Trauma with Temperance
CW: TRAUMA (sexual and otherwise) Hello, lovelies! Now, for some of you that managed to read through some of the site description and/or...
The Etiquette of Unicorn Hunting
In the earlier days of my sex toy party business, I once had a couple client that had emailed me to ask about adding a third to their...
Buttstuff 101 (or A Beginner's Guide to Anal Play)
Happy Anal August, beauties! In honor of the month, I'm coming to you with some booty loving tips so you can celebrate accordingly, and...
Reader question: Is it normal for a young girl to masturbate?
A reader asked: Is it normal for a young girl to masturbate? The short answer is: yes! The long answer is: yes, and there is context that...
Menstrual what??
So by now, if you're a person with a vagina that bleeds, you've probably heard about the newest fashion trend in menstrual products: the...
The only how-to guide you'll ever need for giving oral sex
One of my favorite indulgences on Hulu is a show called The Bold Type. It tells the story of three best friends who all work at a women's...



















